What exactly is an affirmation? It is simply a statement we make to help ourselves improve our life. Although the use of affirmations includes repeating them often so that our subconscious will take over, there is nothing “other worldly” about them. We are simply training ourselves to think positive.

Do affirmations help? Yes. Most definitely! Here is how to choose affirmations that will help you make your life better.

Make your affirmation believable

If you don’t believe your affirmation is possible, you won’t be able to put the effort into seeing it happen. For example, “I will marry a millionaire”, is so far from our current life that we can’t find it believable. It is a dream, not an affirmation. (Another note here: We recommend affirmations be in the present tense – but that’s another lesson. For now, affirmations can be future tense when we are setting goals.)

An affirmation should state what you want without being too much of an exaggeration. A much better affirmation would be: “I will marry someone whom I love and who makes a comfortable living.” This affirmation is one that you can believe and can take steps to achieve.

Repeat your affirmation often

In order for your subconscious to pick it up and make it automatic, it has to be repeated often. Basically, you are programming your mind to remember what you want so that you subconsciously make decisions that will help you achieve your goal.

One way to repeat affirmations is to put them on post-its that you place around your house (on the fridge, on the bathroom mirror, on the cupboard, and other places you’ll see them). This can be effective on its own, or can be used with other affirmation techniques.

Don’t try to control what happens

While you should take steps to achieve your affirmation, don’t try to control what happens in your life. If your affirmation was to marry someone who makes a comfortable living, and someone comes into your life who makes minimum wage, the decision is yours. You can choose to let go of your affirmation or to continue looking.

Creating Your Affirmation

Affirmations work best when they are stated in the present tense.”I will be a better parent” is a good affirmation, but it allows you to wait for it to happen.”I am an excellent parent” is better because it implants itself in your subconscious as current. You are doing it now. Your subconscious will help you do it.

Keep your affirmation as short as possible. It will work much better and faster than a wordy affirmation. (And it is easier to say.)

Repeat it often. Basically, you are programming your mind to remember what you want so that you subconsciously make decisions that will help you attain your goal.

Don’t use negative affirmations. “I will not bully my child” is not a good affirmation. It will work faster if you use the positive approach. “I am a calm parent” is positive and will reinforce your objective.

Make your affirmation feel right for you. The more you believe in the affirmation, the sooner you will achieve your goal.

Time your affirmations. Find a time to reinforce your affirmations. First thing in the morning as you brush your teeth is an excellent time to reinforce your affirmations. As you get ready for bed is also a great time. If you reaffirm your affirmations as you get ready for bed, your subconscious will continue your affirmation while you sleep.

You also want to repeat your affirmations several times throughout the day to help embed it in your subconscious.

You can create a better “you”. Create your affirmation, repeat your affirmation. Trust your affirmation. These tips will help you set and achieve your goals.

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Any thought we have or any word we say is affirmation. Affirmations are directly linked to our sub-consciousness which influences it to guide our conscious that can lead us to a certain direction which can either bring a positive or negative change. Scientific affirmations refer to healing of the body through specific affirmations developed by professional hypnotists and scientists. While regular everyday affirmations are useful, scientific healing ones are particularly useful.

A book ‘SCIENTIFIC HEALING AFFIRMATIONS’ by Paramahansa Yogananda published in 1960′s thoroughly explains the theory of scientific healing affirmations. This book first explains that affirmations are words or thoughts sent forth due to our ego or soul. Furthermore, exaggeration or falsehood makes words ineffective. Man’s word should be truth and have a feeling of realization only then the affirmations will work. According to ‘Scientific Healing Affirmations’ these affirmations are linked to our sub consciousness which is further linked to cosmic consciousness, or God. By repeating scientific healing affirmations we are sure to be heard by God but at the same time throw out any doubt in God’s power and truly belief that God’s power can heal you or others. All affirmations, in order to reach sub consciousness must be free from doubts and uncertainties. As one makes use of affirmations, the attitude should be complete devotion and clear understanding for example will affirmations should be accompanied with strong determination or feeling by complete devotion. Also while healing others, select an affirmation that is suitable to emotional temperament of your patient.

While the inclusion of God is debated by many scientific researchers, the fact that these scientific healing affirmations work is not. Many mental or physical problems can be cured by finding out deep roots of the diseases hidden within these sub consciousness. The medicines or electrical method that we use only fix obvious bodily diseases.

According to ‘Scientific Healing Affirmations,’ to prevent and get rid of mental disease we must have faith in God and should prefer peace. Free the mind from all negative and disturbing thoughts and get rid of all bad habits. Firmly belief in you new good thoughts and stand firmly against violent emotions. Keeping the mind purer is the most superior form of hygiene and when the mind is pure; a person is kept away from many diseases. For curing of mental diseases one should concentrate on the opposite quality of the disease such as anger should be replaced by peace, fear replaced by bravery and sickness by health.

The author states that to prevent physical disease one needs to have proper diet for example don’t over eat or don’t become a cause of proper diet. During curing of physical disease the primary focus should be on mind as mind weakness is the key behind physical diseases and if mind is strong the healing process will be quick as well as effective.

While ‘Scientific Healing Affirmations” is a groundbreaking book, the fact is, it is not as “scientific” as the title claims. Much of the book is based in eastern religious philosophy, and that does take away from it’s value for those non-religious, and even many Christian readers. If you’d like a less fluffy introduction to scientific healing affirmations (the affirmation style and not the book), find a local hypnotist, or get a more scientific book on healing affirmations.

Robert Watson is a certified hypnotherapist with the ABH and the NGH, and has worked with affirmations and subliminal messages for over ten years. Visit his Subliminal Messages [http://subliminal.green-machine.info] website for more information about using affirmations and subliminal messages to help you lose weight, quit smoking, have a more positive outlook and more.