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“One comes to believe whatever one repeats to oneself sufficiently often, whether the statement be true or false. It comes to be dominating thought in one’s mind.”
– Robert Collier
Repetition of words creates repetition of thoughts.
Repetition of thoughts creates reality.
By intentionally choosing the words that wallpaper your mind, you change the tone of the room in which you live and you change the life you are living.
******* The Power of Words *******
We typically dilute our words by drawing them from vague and conflicted states of mind. We present a muddy impression on the creative medium in which we live and our reality mirrors our dull efforts. This is so easy to remedy that you may actually shock yourself with your radical improvement in results as you become more intentional with your affirmations.
Words are not just signposts that point to meaning. When we use them to simply report what we observe it’s like using a racecar to deliver newspapers.
Words are powerful instruments of manifestation. When given an open road they will perform extraordinary feats.
******* Eliminate These Words *******
We use certain words habitually and somewhat unconsciously. By eliminating them from your affirmations, you will automatically begin implementing 2 of the 3 ways to supercharge your affirmations, without even yet knowing what these 3 ways are.
Here are the words to eliminate:
no, not, don’t, doesn’t, never, won’t, can’t, stop, quit, will, am going to, should, want to, plan to, hope to.
Every time you create an affirmation, check for these words. If you find them, reword your affirmation without them.
******* 3 Superchargers for Your Affirmations *******
==>Always Affirm in the Present Tense
When you are creating an affirmation, you are like an artist creating a painting. Whatever you affirm with your paintbrush becomes the reality on the canvas. As an affirmation artist, you do not have colors on your palette. Your words are your paint. You are pulling potential realities from the formless realm into the manifest realm through the narrow birth canal of your carefully chosen words.
Choose your words in the present tense so that the reality you choose becomes experienced now. Now is the only time that has the mystical power to pour forth a manifestation. If you word your affirmations in the future by saying, “I will…,” you keep that carrot dangling in the fictitious future and you pull the plug on the power of your affirmations. A surefire way to begin an affirmation is with the sacred words, “I am…”
==> Always Affirm in the Positive
You are bothering to create an affirmation because you are living something unwanted and you desire a change. It is only natural that you would understand your desire as not wanting what you’ve got. But if you point your affirmation toward getting rid of a habit or condition, if you say what you will not do, or if you affirm that something will go away, you are actually chaining yourself to it.
It simply does not work.
In fact you’d be better off not to affirm at all because this sort of negative affirmation is like affirming the opposite of what you want. Remember, to affirm means to make firm. It is the process of bringing things into form. Remember also that the universe does not hear the word “no.” So whatever you are talking about, whether you are affirming or denying it, you are in effect, affirming it.
Instead of saying, “I will quit smoking,” which is both in the future and negative, say something like:
All my actions are healthy and intentional. I choose my actions and I enjoy all my choices. I am in charge of my actions. I have healthy life affirming habits. I love being in charge of my life.
==> Feel as if it’s Already True
Once you have a well-chosen phrase to affirm, one that is positive, in the present tense, and feels good when you consider it, enter into its world. Step into the affirmation as if it were already your reality. When you say it, imagine that it is already true. Feel how you would feel if it were already manifest. Steps 1 and 2 build a powerful rocket. Step 3 lights the fuse and sends it off with a blast.
Affirmations can literally change your life. They are free. Everyone has equal access to them, and they work day and night, always ready and willing to bring your good to you. Use these 3 superchargers every time you do an affirmation process and watch your life transform before our eyes.
One of the most important pieces of gaining permanent weight loss has nothing to do with the foods you eat or the exercises you do. It has to do with your mindset. Some people are able to lose weight effectively, and then gain it all back, while others, those who have made the proper changes to their lives to lose weight, can stay thin for the rest of their lives. The major difference between these two people is in that one person is achieving weight loss through affirmations, often without even realizing it, while the other is not. One of the most powerful tools for losing weight could en up being weight loss through affirmations.
Affirmations are a thought or a statement that we say to ourselves which has a profound effect on how we act or feel. Depending on its positive or negative nature, the mind then acts accordingly which can lead to either positive or negative impact on our lives. Thus, if you want to achieve weight loss through affirmations, you need to know how to utilize these techniques to give you the mindset of a skinny person. Weight loss through affirmations is an underused and understudied technique, but the effects can be profound.
To achieve weight loss through affirmations we must first overcome our negative thoughts because it is a major contributor to our general mindset. We must let go of these thoughts as these thoughts are major resistance to our weight loss through affirmation treatment. Instead of thinking ‘I am fat’ or ‘I will never be slim again’ try thinking ‘Today I have succeeded in losing some of excess fats’ or ‘I look thinner’. These kinds of statements leads to a positive and fruitful results.
For a positive result of weight loss through affirmations, the affirmations need to be repeated many times. Write down any positive thought you get maybe in a diary, on a piece of card or whichever way is convenient to you. Review them daily to get your mind to completely accept these thoughts and think of them as nothing but true. Preferably review them twice a day. Initially along with positive thoughts, you will eventually run across negative thoughts that continually occur to you. Note down these thoughts as well and at the end of the day review them and try replacing them with something more positive. For example if you have a thought such as ‘this isn’t working’ or ‘I don’t see any change’ try replacing it with ‘I feel lighter’ or ‘I feel thinner’ or ‘It really is working’. You should say your weight loss affirmations out loud, and try to use them in the way that you think, and you should be much better off.
Weight loss through affirmations depends on thoughts and in particular the words that one uses to attain weight loss through affirmations. Proper terminology varies from person to person, but the right words are needed for this weight loss technique to actually work. Try to us simple and direct sentences which your mind can easily get used to without causing any negative effect. This is important as even positive words can have negative effects.
One example of the power of affirmations is noted by Barbara Doberman Levine, author of “Your Body Believes Every Word You say” talked about one man who read about hypnosis and began to affirm to himself, “I am not hungry.” Instead he actually gained weight. Whenever he told himself he was not hungry his mind focused its attention to see if he was hungry. He repeated this affirm so many times that his subconscious actually put energy into making him hungry. So he felt more hungry through this affirm rather than before adopting it. Barbara Levine also says, “Telling yourself not to do something, you focus attention on the very thing you are avoiding, making it harder to avoid”.
Thus, you can not expect to achieve weight loss through affirmation using phrases like ‘I will not eat chocolate’ because this brings to mind the thought of eating chocolate, which in turn will make you desire it more. Instead, say something like ‘I eat healthy foods’ because this is vague enough to avoid problems, but focuses specifically on the idea of controlling what you eat. The words ‘no’ and ‘not’ should never appear in your weight loss affirmations.
Weight loss through affirmations is not only about having the right thoughts but is also about expressing your thoughts using right words. If weight loss affirmations are rightly utilized with proper and correct technique it can result in actual weight loss and a prefect body as we desire. When considering trying to achieve weight loss through affirmations, build up a large list of weight loss affirmations, and run through them daily or twice daily. In time, you should notice that you achieving weight loss through affirmations.
Robert Watson is a certified hypnotherapist with the ABH and the NGH, and has worked with affirmations and subliminal messages for over ten years. Visit his Subliminal Messages [http://subliminal.green-machine.info] website for more information about using affirmations and subliminal messages to help you lose weight, quit smoking, have a more positive outlook and more.
Affirmations are simply positive, or affirmative, statements of truth. The tricky part is that the truth of the affirmation need not be a “present reality;” it can be a future reality you truly wish to create. By declaring this future reality in positive, definite terms, you are tasking your conscious and unconscious mind with finding this new reality. It is important to consider that, when your prayer is answered, it will be now; so, the proper way to “declare a thing” and make it so is to offer thanks NOW – in this moment – for your desired reality as if it had already happened. Your emotional guidance system will seek to recreate the experience of being happy for having achieved this particular goal; and it is likely to do it by bringing that goal to fruition.
Life is a continuous series of changing circumstances. Our thoughts help us make sense of this ever-changing landscape; and they help guide us from one event to another along this path to future “now’s.” Along the way to your future, you are continuously asked to offer thought as a way of generating your future realities. Change happens with or without your input; but you can create affirmative change with affirmative thought. Consider the following words from two great teachers of this path of positive thought and affirmative action:
“Be the change you seek to create in the world.” – Gandhi
“Do unto others what you would have them do unto you.” – Jesus
“Declare a thing and it is so.” – Jesus
“As a man thinketh, so is he.” – Jesus
“Our thoughts become our words as they become our beliefs; our beliefs become our actions as they become our habits. Our habits become our values as our values become our destiny.” – Gandhi
“Whatsoever you desire, when you stand in prayer – believing – will be given unto you.” – Jesus
Believing in a thing is affirming it – it makes it firm, or physical. As you think about a thing which has sparked your interest or curiosity, or which has become desirable to you, your thoughts will naturally want to return there. As you think of a new thing, you will begin to notice that new thing in your world where you haven’t noticed it before. You will also begin to look in new places, read new books and magazines, and perhaps begin doing research or study in this new area of thought. As you give more attention and thought-energy to these ideas, you will develop mental imagery and additional ideas.
The imagery and new ideas you experience, while giving thought to your new desire, will make you feel a certain way. If the feelings are positive, your desire will grow; if your feelings are negative the desire may also grow, but it will likely grow into that which you are afraid of. If your thoughts are positive, and they excite you, you will probably begin speaking about them, as we think and talk about those things which most interest us. These thoughts and words will then stimulate actions and behaviors. Affirmative thoughts inspire affirmative action. Inspired action seems to be effortless and always creates positive change and new realities.
Just imagine that you are programming a computer; you wouldn’t tell the computer all the things you don’t want it to do. You simply tell the computer – in a language it understands – what you want it to do; and then you tell it to do it. Your mind and body operate in much the same way; so, your self-talk – which is actually a type of self-programming – should always be affirmations of what you want to happen. Your programs should always be positive, affirmative, direct, and specific; but you should keep in mind that this is a process – and part of the process is exercising patience and a peaceful countenance. You may not master this immediately; so relax, and be of good cheer.
By thinking and speaking affirmative words, we can generate an affirmative mood, or disposition; an affirmative disposition is one which is free from stress. This state of mind and body is a healing state. Positive thoughts do not stress us out; that’s because they do not cause or stimulate the release of the harmful stress hormones which we experience as “bad feelings.” The way we phrase our words and intentions has a lot to do with the way our subconscious hears, interprets, and acts on those thoughts we hold so important that we took the time and energy to turn them into words. When you turn a desire into words, it is one step closer to becoming a physical reality.
Imagine that you are ordering dinner and you tell the waitress what NOT to bring you. Do you know what you will get for dinner? Some people say that affirmations are not useful or effective because they affirm the lack of the thing you are affirming. In these cases, semantics are everything; re-framing your negative desires into positive affirmations may take some time and thought, but it is worth it. A declaration of what you do not want is really a “negation,” and not an “affirmation.”
By saying, “I don’t want to be sick,” or “God, please take away my illness,” you are focusing on the fact that you are sick, or have an illness; and you are trying to negate it by thinking about it. This does not work. Though you may heal; it will be through natural processes that you could have sped up with an affirmation instead of slowing down with a negation. “Thank you, God, for giving me this wonderful health and strength so I can go for a walk!” is a much better prayer for restoring health and wellness than those listed above.
To create health, wellness, happiness, success, and prosperity, in all areas of your life, begin thinking positively and affirmatively. Think creatively and optimistically if you wish to create a new reality. Express gratitude in your affirmations; and try to feel the feeling of gratitude in your heart as you imagine the happy, new reality you wish to create. Continue to affirm only those things you wish to experience in your life, body, and experience. Below are a few examples of affirmative prayers for health, prosperity, etc; they will give you an idea of how effective thinkers effectively create using effective, affirmative thought. Affirmations need only contain gratitude, joy, and a positive intention.
Try generating a new attitude in the areas where you have problems or suffering. Consider re-framing your focus on the most positive statement you could make about the conditions you wish to experience. “A man must first assume those characteristics he wishes to possess.” Some people say, “Fake it until you make it;” but repeating affirmations will help you choose a more positive track for your thoughts. Try some of the following affirmative thoughts and see how they feel to you; say them out loud and hear how they make you feel:
If you are ill and thinking, “God I feel miserable!” try thinking:
Health – “Thank you, God, for giving me health and strength so that I might live fully and be a model of health and joy to others. Thank you for giving me the strength, courage, and willingness, to do the things that enrich and empower me…”
If you are in turmoil and chaos and thinking, “I’m going to kill someone if these people don’t get off my back!” or “I don’t know what to do! I’m so afraid and worried…” try thinking:
Peace – “Thank you, God, for giving me peace. Thank you for giving me faith and trust and for quieting my mind so that I might rest and hear more clearly your will…”
If you are experiencing relationship problems, instead of thinking, “God I am married to such a _________!!! I can’t stand this anymore!” try thinking:
Relationships – “Thank you, God, for giving me the love and wisdom to see you in all your creation and to love all creation and all living things unconditionally. Love and harmony are alive and well in all my relationships.”
If you are experiencing weight issues and you hate what you see in the mirror, try thinking:
Weight Loss – “I am happy and peaceful here and now. I am safe and loved and create my own peace, security, and nourishment from the power from within me. I am free; and I release the past and others to be free now.”
If you are having financial difficulties, instead of thinking about debt, or a pile of bills, try thinking:
Prosperity – “My good returns to me now in an avalanche of abundance; thank you, God, for prospering me in all my ways. Only good comes to me; and there is always more than enough to share.”
If you can’t seem to make things work out, and you’re thinking, “Why can’t I ever catch a break?” try thinking:
Success – “Thank you, God, for growing my good thoughts now. I give thanks for the wonderful insights and ideas which I have been given and are now coming to light. Thank you for all things going my way, favoring me with your blessings, and for benefiting all as your grace now benefits me. “
“It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.”
– Muhammad Ali
Pete Koerner, author of The Belief Formula
Affirmations are simply statements that we make to ourselves; it’s our self-talk. You use affirmations all the time, whether you’re doing so intentionally or unintentionally. If you make a mistake and you think to yourself, “I’m always making mistakes, I never do anything right”, you’ve just made a negative affirmation. If instead you make a mistake and you think to yourself, “That’s OK, I have the ability to correct this”, you’ve just made a positive affirmation.
Your self-talk has an enormous impact on your conscious and subconscious minds. By repeating positive affirmations you can reprogram your thought patterns. Creating new thought patterns will allow you to begin to change your underlying beliefs and the way that you think and feel about yourself, others, and your place in the world. In this way, you can improve your life dramatically through the use of daily positive affirmations.
Choosing Your Affirmations
Shakti Gawain, author of Creative Visualization, offers the following advice for choosing your affirmations:
o Always phrase your affirmations in the present tense, as if it already exists. Say “I enjoy being at my ideal weight” instead of saying “I will reach my ideal weight.”
o Affirm what you want, not what you don’t want. Instead of saying “I am no longer a procrastinator”, say “I always get things done on time.”
o Don’t simply go through your affirmations by rote; add positive feelings and emotions to your affirmations.
o Choose affirmations that feel right for you. If you come across an affirmation that you like but you would feel more comfortable changing a couple of words, go right ahead.
Use Three Different Pronouns
A technique that you can apply to make your affirmations more effective is to write down the same affirmation using different pronouns. For example, if you want to affirm that you’re surrounded by positive people who want the best for you, you can write down the following three affirmations (in this example your name is Joan):
o I am surrounded by positive people who want the best for me.
o Joan, you are surrounded by positive people who want the best for you.
o Joan is surrounded by positive people who want the best for her.
When you say affirmations in the second and third person it’s as if someone else is talking to you or about you. Your internal critic is less apt to interject a negative comment if it thinks someone else is making these positive affirmations about you.
Affirmations Can Be General or Specific
Affirmations can be general or they can be very specific. Some examples of general affirmations are the following:
o Abundance is all around me.
o Abundance is my birthright.
o There is more than enough for all.
Use general affirmations to “set the stage”. Once you’ve established clear, well-defined goals for yourself you can create specific affirmations to help keep you focused on your goals and to strengthen your belief in your ability to reach your goals. For example, if your goal is to lose 10 pounds in the next three months by exercising, your affirmations could be the following:
o I now jog for 40 minutes, 4 times a week.
o Jogging helps me to lose weight and makes me healthy and fit.
o I am now lifting weights 3 times a week.
o I enjoy going to the gym and lifting weights.
o I am getting excellent results from jogging and weight lifting, and it shows.
o Every day I am getting fitter and fitter.
o I now weigh X amount of pounds (your target weight).
o People comment on how much thinner I am and how good I look.
You Have to Be Able to Believe Your Affirmations
Whenever you choose to change anything in your life, you’re choosing to move out of your present comfort zone. We should always strive to grow and expand our definition of ourselves and of what we are capable of. However, you have to make sure that your affirmations are not so far off from where you are at the moment that there’s no way you can get yourself to believe what you’re affirming.
If you don’t believe the affirmations you’re saying to yourself, then you need to start with a less ambitious affirmation and gradually make your affirmations bigger and bigger. For example, if you currently make $3,000.00 a month, it may be difficult for you to believe “I am now making $50,000.00 a month”. However, you can probably believe the following affirmation: “I am now making $4,500.00, or more, a month”. As you move forward and begin to see results you can progressively increase this number until you do feel comfortable affirming that you make over half a million dollars a year.
Repeat Your Affirmations Often
There is much power in repetition. Positive affirmations are not something that you do once in a while, instead, you should expose your mind to the affirmations that you choose for yourself as often as possible. In the words of Robert Collier: “Constant repetition carries conviction.”
Write down your affirmations and place them where you can refer to them often (you can even carry them around in your wallet). You can say them out loud to yourself every morning when you wake up and at night before going to bed, or you can set aside a few minutes each day to scribble them on a sheet of paper several times to help reinforce the message in your mind.
Taping the affirmations in your own voice and listening to the tape while you’re relaxing-or, even better, meditating– has had extraordinary effects for countless people. Louise Hay, author of the International bestseller “You Can Heal Your Life”, recommends that you sing or chant your affirmations. Some people leave a CD with positive affirmations playing softly in the background while they sleep at night.
In addition, there are several programs that allow affirmations to flash on and off on your computer screen unobtrusively, helping to program these affirmations into your subconscious.
Practitioners who offer healing workshops often use a technique called “affirmation bath”. Basically, several people stand around one person and they all begin saying positive affirmations directed toward that person. The person is “engulfed” by positive messages from others. You can try this technique if you can find several like-minded people to participate in this exercise with you.
Release Any Negative Feelings That Arise
Negative feelings can act as self-imposed stop signs to getting what you want in life. If you feel any discomfort, self-doubt, fear, anger, and so on when saying your affirmations, you need to let go or release these negative feelings. One way to do this is by using the Sedona Method. As stated before, you have to add positive feelings and emotions to your affirmations, and if negative feelings are getting in the way, you need to be able to let go of them.
Your self-talk can either prevent you from getting what you want in life, or it can be a powerful catalyst for creating the life you’ve always wanted. Create a daily practice of using positive affirmations to help motivate, support, and inspire you to go after your dreams.
Written by Marelisa Fábrega who blogs at http://abundance-blog.marelisa-online.com
There is little doubt that using affirmations can help you develop a mindset that can help you achieve limitless wealth, success and self fulfillment. Most people when they use affirmations simply use positive affirmations and while they are effective, there are a number of things that you can do to make your use of affirmation far more effective.
1. Record your own affirmations. Commercial recordings work very well but, affirmations recorded in your own voice are more effective. While commercial recordings use a generic voice, it has been scientifically proven that your subconscious mind is far more sensitive to the sound of your own voice. When your subconscious mind hears your voice, it is far more likely to accept the affirmation and embed it permanently in your memory than the generic voice on a commercial recording.
2. Write your own affirmations. Commercial audios, by nature, design their affirmations for the widest possible audience. While this may help, if you write your own affirmations, they will specifically address the areas that you need to work on. In addition, your subconscious mind is also more sensitive to your style of writing and speaking and will therefore accept the affirmation much more readily.
3. Record your affirmations with a musical background. Famed super learning researcher Georgi Lorzanov discovered that the mind will achieve a super learning state when you play certain types of music while listening to your affirmations. Play Mozart, Bach or possibly an entrainment audio and the mind will settle into the Alpha State and be much more receptive to new knowledge or affirmations. The scientific name for this is the “Mozart Effect.” This is also the reason that they recommend that you play classical music while your child is very young. Children who listen to classical music up to the age of five, typically develop a much higher IQ.
4. Use the Lorzanov pattern to listen to your affirmations. Lorzanov also discovered that a specific repetitive pattern was more effective in creating a super learning state. Repeat your affirmations 3 times with a 6 second interval and the effect of the affirmations will be much stronger.
5. Don’t just use positive affirmations. While positive affirmations are very effective, they are only part of the story. The human mind is a steel trap. Once you have learned something, you will never forget it. If you learned a self limiting belief when you were young, you will remember it for life. For this reason, you should use clearing affirmations. What you are trying to do is correct the old false belief with a corrected version of that belief. For example, you may have heard as a child that rich people are greedy. To try to correct this false belief, you might try a corrective affirmation like this: people say that rich people are greedy but, the truth is that the truly wealthy are the most charitable people in the world. This way the old self limiting thought pattern has been replaced with a corrected version which will not limit your financial growth.
Affirmations are incredibly effective in creating a wealth mindset and these few little steps will make them much more effective. Affirmations are far more than just positive thinking.
Stan Pontiere has been an avowed self-help geek since high school-more than 50 years ago and I am still a believer in that classic affirmation-Every day in every way, I get better and better. For more information on using affirmations to achieve wealth, success and self-fulfillment please visit: http://www.wealthbyaffirmation.com For articles and reviews of self improvement programs, please visit: http://wealthsuccessreviews.com Join me in the Consciousness Revolution. For every person that we help reach greater degrees of self fulfillment and consciousness, the closer we come to making the evolutionary jump in the consciousness of all mankind.
Affirmations are probably the easiest and most effective method – compared to the effort involved – known to influence the conscious mind. Many of the world’s most intelligent experts and philosophers have used, and are using this technique, which has been handed down over thousands of years, in various guises such as mantras and prayers. The difference today, because of the now more wide spread knowledge of this technique, is that people from all walks of life are using them to meet people, win tournaments, heal disease and close business deals.
Affirmations are quite simple by their very nature, as all they really are is simple statements repeated regularly to yourself, whether silently or aloud, and practical to you at the time. You can do them anywhere, you decide upon a statement that represents what you want to have happen to you, and then you simply repeat it to yourself over and over again.
As an example, let’s say you find yourself in a familiar situation which normally upsets you and leaves you worn out and stressed, when actually you would prefer to be relaxed and unworried by it, this would be the exact time when using a positive affirmation would be beneficial to you, and in this situation a good example of an affirmation you would repeat to yourself to help change the situation could be ” I feel calm and relaxed, I feel calm and relaxed, I feel calm and relaxed”. Now at this point it is important that you don’t try to force yourself to feel calm and relaxed, just make sure that you keep repeating the affirmation to yourself for approx 5 minutes. Another quick example of a positive use of affirmations would be prior to attending an important business meeting that you would like to go well; this time you would begin affirming to yourself a few minutes beforehand with something like this “It’s going to be a great meeting, It’s going to be a great meeting.”
So Exactly What are You Doing When You do Affirmations?
When you use affirmations you are influencing, directly, the very thoughts that are occurring at any one specific time in your mind. As your mind can only hold one thought at a time, an affirmation works by cramming your mind and filling it with thoughts that support your goal. It’s quite clever really; in a simple way the words are suggesting to your mind what it should be thinking, so if you are affirming ” It’s going to be a great meeting ” then your mind naturally begins thinking related thoughts about it being a great meeting. It really is quite simple really, but the technique can be remarkably effective in helping you achieve the results you are looking for.
How do You Know if You are Doing it Right?
Well it’s all in the words you choose, they must be POSITIVE not negative, and, as gratitude forms part of the whole attraction process, you should include words that also convey this. For example, I use the following terminology to start all of my affirmations, taught by a great mentor of mine, Bob Proctor (from The Secret, Movie) no matter what I am affirming ” I am so Happy and Grateful now”. These words you will notice also use another important aspect of affirmations, they must always be in the present tense, as if you already have whatever it is happen. So if for example you have a money affirmation to bring more financial abundance into your life you could say ” I am so Happy and Grateful Now That Money is Attracted to me and I am attracted to money” or, for more opportunities to appear to you, you could say ” I am so Happy and Grateful Now That New Opportunities are Presented to me From Multiple Sources on a Continuous Basis”
You actually don’t even need to believe what you are affirming! This mistake can have a counter effect and nullify the effects. I know of many people who have used affirmations unsuccessfully mainly because they were trying to force themselves to believe. By the way, don’t get me wrong, if you DO believe what you are affirming, this will only serve to enhance, but if you don’t, then that’s OK too. You don’t have to force anything; by the process of repetition your mind will pick up the content of your affirmations and will therefore allow the correct thoughts into your consciousness.
You must also keep your affirmations reasonably short and to the point, easy to say and easy to repeat over and over again. I try to keep my affirmations to a maximum of 25 words, sometimes a lot less. Even 2 or 3 words can sometimes be an effective affirmation, short statements like ” I have tremendous success always” or ” I achieve record sales ” I have seen affirmations that were a full page long. There’s absolutely no chance that you can repeat an affirmation of that length in an effective manner, and I have found with people who have affirmations which are too long, soon tire of the repetition and the affirmation soon fizzles out. So the lesson here is, make it short and make it easy to say and repeat.
Also be very careful that you do not use your affirmations in a careless way that means they may work against you, for example statements like ” I’ll never get it done” I’ll never do it” I always lose” are all affirmations that you can easily find yourself repeating to yourself without even realizing it, so watch out for these.
So remember that anybody can create affirmations and use them effectively throughout the day to help accomplish the things that they want. They can be said anywhere, in the doctor’s waiting room, in a traffic jam, they don’t need to be believed, all you have to do is repeat them. I repeat my affirmations 5 times per day, however this is my personal preference which works well for me, but if I was to recommend a minimum I would say 3 times per day, first thing when you get out of bed in the morning – this sets the tone for the rest of the day – secondly, at lunch time – this helps to re-motivate you when typically you might be flagging – and thirdly just before you go to sleep – this is when your subconscious mind is in its most receptive state. Two or three minutes is all you need, start doing this now and commit to repeating every day and you will be amazed at how quickly you will begin to produce a noticeable affect.
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Do you have questions on affirmations? Do you wonder what they are and how to use them? Are you stumped when it comes to writing affirmations of your own? If any of the above rings true for you this series on affirmations will be very useful for you.
I have received more than a few inquiries regarding affirmations with particular requests for sample affirmations on a variety of different subject matter. Affirmations are really any thought that you think or say out-loud or to yourself all of the time.
For our intent and purposes we will refer to affirmations as being statements said with intention. You are no longer letting your mind wonder away with whatever gibberish that may have previously been common place. You are taking control of your thoughts; you are giving them your attention for your desires.
Any positive thing you say to yourself is good for your overall well-being and state of mind. However, I do believe that you’ll find your affirmations more useful if you tailor them specifically to you and your situation much like a tailor would fit you for a custom fit jacket.
Use whatever affirmations below that you like and that feel right with you. Then, once you’re comfortable, start to write some of your own that are specific to you and your ideal state.
Emotions Affect Affirmations
Remember that your affirmations are going to be much more affective that much faster if you can invoke your emotions while saying them. Your thoughts are energy and your emotions put those thoughts into motion.
You stir up a much stronger emotional response when you raise your voice and vary your inflection oppose to when you just read something off in a monotone voice.
Your emotions will be stronger still if you give your attention to the words as you say them instead of uttering the words with your mouth while your mind is wondering off on anything other than the task at hand.
Thoughts are energy and the emotions you put behind your thoughts set your life in motion. If you constantly are affirming that money is hard to come by, then don’t be surprised if you receive small raises from your employer, barely meet your social obligations, and have trouble accumulating wealth.
When did Negative Thinking Start
You’ve likely been thinking this way for a long time and if it were working for you I doubt that you’d be here, reading this article. Thinking in a way that doesn’t suite you was most likely thrust upon you as a young child by people who had learned to think and act the way they did from the people that surrounded them as a child.
Now here you sit with so much knowledge literally at your fingertips and you realize that you have the power to change your experience. It may seem too easy but I say… it’s just as easy as it should be.
If you don’t spend much of any time looking into your own eyes I can’t recommend doing it enough. I’ve done this before I even fully understood the significance or the impact of it. For me it feels like reconnecting to something within myself, like I was starring into something that knew and understood my many anguishes. Which is true, no one understands me and my experiences the way I do.
Looking into my own eyes gives me great comfort and peace and brings me back to the present moment when I have slipped off into worry about the future or sadness about the past. I am comforted and soothed with a calm that words just don’t seem to measure properly.
Another way to look at this is to realize that some of the most powerful and emotionally striking messages we’ve received have been from others who looked us directly in the eye.
You taking the time to look into your own eyes when you say something solidifies the importance and the power of your own message.
But seriously, don’t take my word for it, try it for yourself. Look into your eyes and just say hello, say I love you, or any one of the many affirmations listed below.
If you’re scoffing at this idea remember how many times you’ve stood in front of the mirror getting ready or passed by your reflection and let out a deep and heavy-hearted sigh at some aspect of your body that just measure up to how you’d like it to be.
Recall the countless times you condemned yourself for not being better at something or for not doing more in a day.
The only difference here is that instead of affirming something negative about yourself you are affirming something positive about yourself.
You can change your thinking and thereby your experience by taking control of your thoughts. You must realize that you have a say in what plays in your mind. You do not have to think thoughts that don’t suite you.
As Wayne Dyer says, “Change your thoughts and you will change your life.”
Writing Your Affirmations
When you write out affirmations of your own then do so describing your ideal situations and be specific, be crystal clear on exactly what you would like to experience. Write each one 10 times to really get them imprinted on your mind.
Below are affirmations concerning relationships. If you are not presently in a relationship the idea here is to be thinking only of the ideal relationship you desire. If you continually think of your relationship disasters then you will go on to have similar experiences as you try to move your life forward.
If you are in a relationship and wish to tailor these affirmations, then you would say something like, “Joan and I are very patient with each other.”
* My partner and I are very patient with each other.
* My partner and I are very understanding of each other.
* My partner and I hug, touch, and kiss each other all the time.
* My partner and I have a wonderful sex life.
* My partner and I are very affectionate with each other.
* My partner and I have great respect for each other.
* My partner and I are very considerate of each other.
* My partner and I genuinely enjoy each others company.
* My partner and I love to cook with each other.
* My partner and I laugh together all the time.
* My partner and I have a wonderful friendship.
* My partner and I have lives outside of our relationship.
* My partner is comfortable within his own skin.
* My partner cares about my feelings.
* My partner is honest even when it’s not easy.
* My partner has great integrity.
* My partner is a great kisser.
* My partner takes excellent care of his physical, mental, and spiritual health.
* My partner has goals and takes action to move himself towards them.
* My partner will try most anything at least once.
* My partner treats others with respect and appreciation.
* My partner appreciates affection.
* My partner is a little goofy and silly at times.
* My partner makes me laugh.
* My partner laughs more than he scowls.
* My partner loves the time he spends with family and friends.
* My partner enjoys a bit of travel.
The positive talk is great in helping you feel better and is instrumental in bringing better experiences into your life. But you’re not likely to find your ideal match sitting on your couch when you return from the bathroom during a commercial break of your favorite sit-com. You must give your words action.
You must go places, you must do things, and you must interact with the world. For example, if you’ve always wanted to learn how to khaki then take a community course with a friend, you never know who will be doing the same.
If you like to read, do so in a public place. Simply go to a coffee shop for a while, have some tea, and read for an hour or so. Join a club and become activity in the things that interest you. You are surrounding yourself with like minded people, and you are further allowing the universe to do its job.
If you want someone to cuddle you on those chili evenings you have to put yourself out into the world.
How to Use These Affirmations
Set aside a few minutes each day, preferably first thing in the morning or right before bed when your subconscious mind seems most open. Invoke your emotions, sit in front of the mirror, look into those beautiful eyes of yours and proclaim your affirmation. Get excited about the new life you are beginning, think about the new possibilities and adventures.
Give yourself praise for being brave and busting out of an old and familiar way that was getting you nowhere.
The more persistent you are with an affirmation the more it becomes the natural nature of your thoughts. You will be surprised and delighted at how differently you feel after only a short time of affirming your best life.
I hope you were able to find some relationship affirmations that work for you. If you have a relationship affirmation you’d like to share, a constructive comment to leave, or a question of your own please contact me at http://www.kimchelltalk.com.
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As people begin to realize the importance and value of our thoughts in creating the life we desire (or the life we have, but would like to change), affirmations can be instrumental in re-training ourselves in how to think. Before we begin thinking, we start out a relatively clean slate.
As we pick up beliefs and ways of thinking throughout life we begin to think that who we think we are is who we actually are. This is not the absolute truth. In actuality, we are much more than we could ever imagine and the negative stuff we have picked up along the way is something we can part with, because it’s not our true essence.
The purpose of affirmations is to affirm the truth and desires about ourselves and our circumstances. What can happen as we begin to focus on what we want and actually verbalize those desires in the form of affirmations, is the stuff that gets in our way will let itself be known. This is the stuff that life has caused us to believe is really us.
Are affirmations a way to circumvent reality? Some people use them that way, but clearly intentional use will yield the truth every time: affirmations only affirm what is really inside. It just needs some affirmation to be fully realized, inside and out.
When people view an affirmation as a band-aid to a problem, the problem they are referring to is the stuff that has stopped you from feeling that the affirmation is true, through and through. Affirmations are most useful when put into practice as a tool to help one get to know him or herself better through clarifying wants and determining unhelpful thoughts and patterns so they can be released. That ensures the affirmation is healing the cause and not being used as a band-aid.
Your True Self knows you are totally lovable and loving, that you have every resource available to you (even if it is in a different form than you may expect), and that you can make your life into what you want it to be. However, your ego or inner critic, will tell you otherwise.
Practicing affirmations deserves your full attention. It is of great value to bring affirmations into your life to invite the stuff blocking your way to come up and show you where you can let go and let your True Self shine through. All you need to do is make a simple commitment to yourself: I will be open to be with what is coming up.
You do not always need to know exactly what the issue is that is presenting itself, or the root cause. If it does show itself to you, that is fine. If not, the feeling can still be tended to.
When uncomfortable feelings or thought patterns rise to the surface, much like bubbles coming up from an underwater spring, allow yourself to be with them. Take a few deep breaths and refrain from giving them names (if they don’t have a script running already) or getting involved in the story that goes with them. Ask your feeling or thought what they are about if you desire. Know that acknowledging the uncomfortable feeling will help it dissolve. Do not push against it for that is what has kept it with you to this point.
If you find yourself resisting feeling negative emotion simply remember that it is okay to feel what you feel! Dealing with painful or stressful emotions or thoughts can be well handled through first allowing yourself to feel them by deeply breathing and following your breath into your body while imagining it cleansing and honoring the emotion, and second, seeking out some techniques to assist if they persist. Working through emotions can be achieved through a coaching session as well.
To get started with affirmations, it is as easy as bringing to mind some statements that on some level you know to be true or you would like to feel the truth of such as: I love me. I am perfect, whole, and worth of goodness. I am financially free. Begin by saying and writing these statements to yourself at least 5 times per day, 10-20 will have a more profound effect. This is the power of changing your thoughts with deliberate action.
As you progress, remember the importance of allowing whatever is standing in your way to come up and dissolve. It may also be helpful to ask yourself questions about your affirmations such as
How would it be possible for me to be financially free?
Why do I love myself?
What about me is perfect and whole?
It is initially natural to question one’s self so use your mind to your advantage in this manner!
Affirmations are not a band-aid. They are an affirmation of who you truly are and what you can truly do with your life when you learn to believe them. To believe something you must think it over and over again.
Using affirmations is helpful along any journey to self-love and conscious creation of your life. It is important to realize that creating affirmations with clear intention is a learned skill. Start with affirmations that are just out of your belief, but you think may be true. For instance, if saying I love me to yourself feels funny, but sort of true you can stretch it to include other affirmatve statements like I love me and I am fun to be around or I am open to loving myself and I am learning to like myself.
To help yourself get out of your own way, be gentle with yourself as you change and grow and modify your affirmations as necessary. If an affirmation does not feel good, change it! Use affirmations daily and often for as long as you desire and know that many people use them for months to feel and notice a substantial change. We create our thought patterns that are not helpful and use them for decades. To re-train ourselves it takes some time as well. Perseverance pays off!
When saying an affirmation to yourself get centered first, take a deep breath, and connect with the feeling of your affirmation, believing it to be true. In combination with becoming aware of what stands in your way and a commitment to unite with your true self, affirmations are a great tool to discover the true you!
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What does affirm mean? It means to assert positively; to tell with confidence; to maintain as true; opposed to deny. I really love the meaning of this word. We really could stop this article at this point because the definition is so exact and so clear.
Affirmations are popular and powerful because they are simple, easy and they work. Affirmations reprogram your thought process, they change the way you think and feel. With affirmations you can replace negative beliefs that have been sabotaging you and no longer serve you with new beliefs that are positive and effective in making real changes in your life.
With affirmations you can turn failure into success, you can turn a sour and negative attitude into a great and joyful attitude. You can change bad health into vibrant good health. In other words affirmations can enable you to achieve the life you have always dreamed of having.
There are many ways to affirm. Affirmations can be verbal, mental or written but there is a certain format that make them work.
· The statements must be positive. When your subconscious connect with the statement “I don’t have money to pay my bills.” It picks up the “don’t have” and gives you more of what you “don’t have.” The goal here is to target subconscious negative beliefs and replace them with positive nurturing beliefs.
· They must be formatted in the present as if they already exist. You would not say, “I plan to have money to pay my bills.” Plan is a future event.
· You must include yourself. I am, I Jane or I in the first person.
· You must be consistent with repeating your affirmations
Keep your affirmations short, clear and so simple a child would understand them.
This is a simple, clear and positive example of an affirmation: If you weight 180 pounds and your goal is to weigh 155 pounds you would state this: “I, Jane Doe, am healthy and I weight 155 pounds.”
Don’t concern yourself about what diet you will use, what exercise program you will use. Those things will open up for you. You add the word “healthy” because you could get sick and lose the weight. This would not be good. State what you want and not what you do not want.
The example above happened to me. I found it so interesting that I suddenly began to walk more, I watched what I ate, not dieting, I love swimming so I did that as much as possible. Suddenly my clothes fit and people began to comment about my weight loss. It was easy and so much fun. Almost automatic. No stress. I was delighted.
If you want money to pay your bills you would state this: “I, Jane Doe, have more than enough money to pay all of my bills.”
When you affirm these statements over time you really begin to believe them as true and your subconscious has no choice but to make this happen for you. It also helps to add this statement at the end of your affirmation. ” I accept this or something better.” This shows you are not trying to control how you get what you intend to have.
An affirm statement goes like this: ” I have a wonderful job in sales that pay me $75,000 a year. I accept this or something better.”
When first using affirmations go easy on yourself. If you weight 300 pounds and want to lose 150 pounds affirm the weight lose in 25 pounds increments. If you earned 30,000 in your last sales job consider affirming $100,000 a year.
Affirming $1,000,000 could happen but only if your belief system is in place. Continually repeating affirmations with conviction will chip away at the strongest resistance. If you use affirmations correctly they can manifest real and positive change in your life.
When you affirm your statements you believe they are true. Your mind cannot hold two conflicting thoughts.
You can speak your affirmations out loud and in front of a mirror. Try saying, “I like myself” in front of a mirror and not smile. Look yourself straight in the eye and affirm your message with emotion. The more emotion you exhibit the faster they will appear for you.
You can sing your affirmations. Make a tune to hum and sing throughout your day. This is fun. You may choose to write your affirmations. Write them (10-20) times. Write them down each morning when you first get up or in the evening before you go to sleep. This imprints them on your brain. You can record your affirmations on your recorder or MP3 player. I use this approach.
No matter which way you choose to affirm I know for a fact they work. I have used affirmations for many years to change bad habits and to get from life exactly what I want. With affirmations you can live your life by design not by default. So get started and have fun. Start with something you really want and affirm it in the present tense as if you already have it.
No matter what you are dealing with or what problems you would like help with affirmations can make you feel better about yourself and your life. Affirmations work well with visualizations. Check that out.
Love, tolerance and peace
Harriette is a wife, mom, successful internet marketer, registered respiratory therapist, former General Motors car dealer, started and operated her own successful staffing agency and advertising weekly newspaper, writer, public speaker, artist, and Baby Boomer, and she is doing it her way.