As people begin to realize the importance and value of our thoughts in creating the life we desire (or the life we have, but would like to change), affirmations can be instrumental in re-training ourselves in how to think. Before we begin thinking, we start out a relatively clean slate. 

As we pick up beliefs and ways of thinking throughout life we begin to think that who we think we are is who we actually are.  This is not the absolute truth.  In actuality, we are much more than we could ever imagine and the negative stuff we have picked up along the way is something we can part with, because it’s not our true essence.

The purpose of affirmations is to affirm the truth and desires about ourselves and our circumstances. What can happen as we begin to focus on what we want and actually verbalize those desires in the form of affirmations, is the stuff that gets in our way will let itself be known.  This is the stuff that life has caused us to believe is really us. 

Are affirmations a way to circumvent reality?  Some people use them that way, but clearly intentional use will yield the truth every time: affirmations only affirm what is really inside.  It just needs some affirmation to be fully realized, inside and out.

When people view an affirmation as a band-aid to a problem, the problem they are referring to is the stuff that has stopped you from feeling that the affirmation is true, through and through. Affirmations are most useful when put into practice as a tool to help one get to know him or herself better through clarifying wants and determining unhelpful thoughts and patterns so they can be released.  That ensures the affirmation is healing the cause and not being used as a band-aid.

Your True Self knows you are totally lovable and loving, that you have every resource available to you (even if it is in a different form than you may expect), and that you can make your life into what you want it to be. However, your ego or inner critic, will tell you otherwise.

Practicing affirmations deserves your full attention.  It is of great value to bring affirmations into your life to invite the stuff blocking your way to come up and show you where you can let go and let your True Self shine through. All you need to do is make a simple commitment to yourself: I will be open to be with what is coming up.

You do not always need to know exactly what the issue is that is presenting itself, or the root cause. If it does show itself to you, that is fine. If not, the feeling can still be tended to.

When uncomfortable feelings or thought patterns rise to the surface, much like bubbles coming up from an underwater spring, allow yourself to be with them. Take a few deep breaths and refrain from giving them names (if they don’t have a script running already) or getting involved in the story that goes with them. Ask your feeling or thought what they are about if you desire. Know that acknowledging the uncomfortable feeling will help it dissolve. Do not push against it for that is what has kept it with you to this point. 

If you find yourself resisting feeling negative emotion simply remember that it is okay to feel what you feel!  Dealing with painful or stressful emotions or thoughts can be well handled through first allowing yourself to feel them by deeply breathing and following your breath into your body while imagining it cleansing and honoring the emotion, and second, seeking out some techniques to assist if they persist. Working through emotions can be achieved through a coaching session as well.

To get started with affirmations, it is as easy as bringing to mind some statements that on some level you know to be true or you would like to feel the truth of such as: I love me. I am perfect, whole, and worth of goodness. I am financially free. Begin by saying and writing these statements to yourself at least 5 times per day, 10-20 will have a more profound effect. This is the power of changing your thoughts with deliberate action.

As you progress, remember the importance of allowing whatever is standing in your way to come up and dissolve. It may also be helpful to ask yourself questions about your affirmations such as

How would it be possible for me to be financially free?

Why do I love myself?

What about me is perfect and whole?

It is initially natural to question one’s self so use your mind to your advantage in this manner!

Affirmations are not a band-aid.  They are an affirmation of who you truly are and what you can truly do with your life when you learn to believe them.  To believe something you must think it over and over again.

Using affirmations is helpful along any journey to self-love and conscious creation of your life.  It is important to realize that creating affirmations with clear intention is a learned skill.  Start with affirmations that are just out of your belief, but you think may be true. For instance, if saying I love me to yourself feels funny, but sort of true you can stretch it to include other affirmatve statements like I love me and I am fun to be around or I am open to loving myself and I am learning to like myself.

To help yourself get out of your own way, be gentle with yourself as you change and grow and modify your affirmations as necessary.  If an affirmation does not feel good, change it!  Use affirmations daily and often for as long as you desire and know that many people use them for months to feel and notice a substantial change.  We create our thought patterns that are not helpful and use them for decades.  To re-train ourselves it takes some time as well.  Perseverance pays off!

When saying an affirmation to yourself get centered first, take a deep breath, and connect with the feeling of your affirmation, believing it to be true.  In combination with becoming aware of what stands in your way and a commitment to unite with your true self, affirmations are a great tool to discover the true you!

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I hear of so many people using affirmations as the universal remedy for everything that ails them. They wake up in the morning and verbalize their affirmations. They go through their days verbalizing positive statements about situations and their lives. Then, they go to bed saying their affirmations like bed-time prayers.

I tried reciting affirmations for a while, but never quite understood how stating that ‘I choose to be rich’ would have any effect on my life as long as I sat in front of the television with a bag of chips. The problem was that, I wasn’t doing anything to give the affirmations a basis from which to operate. While an affirmation might have made me feel good, it certainly didn’t create the situations I needed to reach my goals.

If ‘affirmations’ are positive messages to my brain, to retrain it, and to the Universe, to let it know where you choose to be, then planned ‘actions’ provide a basis of reality on which the affirmations would function. This is where I began applying affirm-actions in my life.

— Positive Words —

For many years, affirmations have been considered the solution for many of life’s issues. Confidence, success, and power have claimed to have been gained through daily affirmations. But, many people with whom I’ve spoken say that affirmations do absolutely nothing for them. The problem lies in the fact that you must align your life such that the affirmations can ring true.

The core problem with repeating affirmations to ourselves is that, unless our conscious mind feels that the affirmations are true, it will not process the positive statements. Our conscious mind intercepts the information we are receiving, and filters unrealistic messages, or messages that contradict our belief systems, from the subconscious mind.

Have you ever repeated, as we’ve been taught, sometimes for months and even years on end, the simple sentence, ‘I choose to be wealthy’? Even though it might have made you feel good, were you actually wealthy, or did you become wealthy, at any time? For most people, the answer is ‘No’.

The reason is that your conscious mind was filtering that message as a lie. The conscious mind takes that information, wretches your ‘gut’, and echoes back, ‘Look around! Wake up!’ The good words were not even making it to the subconscious mind where it counts. As long as your conscious mind filters your affirmations as lies, then there is no amount of present tense affirming that can change what ‘you are’ into what ‘you are not.’

— Mixing Words with Actions —

To resolve this problem, you have to do two things: make a plan and change the wording of your affirmations. You not only have to have your subconscious mind involved to actively process your desires, but you also have to give your conscious mind a way to accept the ‘misconceptions’ of the affirmations. Instead of lying to yourself, make a plan and execute actions that support your affirmations. This is where affirm-actions come into play.

You must first make a solid plan that defines your vision, mission, and goals. This plan takes into consideration where you are and how to reach your vision. By making a plan and believing in the plan, you are empowering your conscious and subconscious mind with a weapon to overcome the negative feelings and beliefs that you currently have buried in your mind. This approach will open the channels of communications for your affirmations to make it into your mind.

The second part of the solution is to change the wording of your affirmations. You have to convince your conscious brain to process the misconceptions of the affirmations as truths. Since your conscious brain will filter out lies, you have to word the affirmations in such a way that it will appear as a ‘possibility.’ For instance, instead of saying ‘I choose to be wealthy’ or ‘I am wealthy,’ reword it to say ‘I will be wealthy.’ This is actually converting the ‘lie’ into a command to tell your brain where your plan is leading you.

As you can see, an affirm-action is a more assertive form of affirmation. Essentially, you are converting a baseless affirmation to one that is a possibility simply by associating it with an action. The affirmations then become factual, positive statements that ‘remind’ you of my vision and inform the universe that this is the direction you choose to go.

— What’s next? —

Positive words alone cannot change a world—your world. But, words combined with action can materialize a future of which, at one time, you could only dream.

The purpose of an affirm-action is not to try to convince yourself that you are something that you are not. It is not there to falsify your future or alter the things of the past. It is a way of using your experiences through an intelligent plan and reminding yourself why you’re working so hard along a given path to reach your vision. You are claiming your vision of the future, telling the universe that this is what you want, and going after it.

By combining actions with words, you are initiating a plan to show your conscious mind that you are indeed heading in the direction of your desires. When you begin using your affirmations, in conjunction with the actions, your desires are now making it past your conscious mind into the subconscious mind where it will be of greater use. This is where the soul can get an idea of what you’re doing and will help you get there.

Affirmations are considered “new age” terminology for the practice of positive thinking. The principle is to surround yourself with positive statements and ideas about what you want in life, and you will be more likely to achieve your goals. Affirmations are positive statements that reinforce and inspire you to reach your true life destination and personal fulfillment.

Affirmations can be used to help you achieve success in all areas of your life, everything from your professional life to your health, your love life and your financial situation. If properly written and you commit to your affirmations, they will help you reach your goals and find personal fulfillment.

How Do Affirmations Work?

To be happy and fulfilled in life, we must believe in ourselves. For all of us, our beliefs are thoughts that have been programmed into us since childhood. Some of these beliefs will help you to achieve your goals, but some of the “pre-programming” we have had holds us back from allowing us to believe what we really want for ourselves is actually possible. At a subconscious level, we are continually affirming our thoughts and desires, but to wash away the negative programming that is holding us back, and to really believe in ourselves, we must verbalize our inspirations.

By verbalizing our positive thoughts, over and over again, you re continually chipping away at your negative self-conscience and re-programming your thoughts. Let’s take a goal such as weight loss as an example. If you have always struggled with weight loss, an example of an affirmation you may use would be:

“I am healthy and happy with my appearance.”

You will notice the first times you verbalize this affirmation, you may feel uncomfortable and have negative feelings arouse from within. You may even have a feeling of resistance before you say the statement. This is your subconscious showing its true feeling. You subconscious is not agreeing with your statement and is trying to tell you it is not possible. Keep at it. Repeat your affirmation, day after day. You will eventually start to feel joy and a sense of well-being. This is when you know your affirmation is starting to work. You are essentially “brainwashing” away any negative thoughts you have about the goal you are trying to reach.

How Quickly Will My Affirmations Start To Work For Me?

There is no specific formula or timeline that will dictate how long it will take before your affirmations stat to have an impact on your life. It will depend greatly upon how much inner resistance you have to the affirmations you have written and how willing you are to make a change in your life. The question should not really be one of how long it will take, but rather how much do you want the change to happen.

How to Write Affirmations

There are no set rules on how to write affirmations, but there are some tips to help you write meaningful, effective affirmations:

Tips to making Affirmations Relevant and Useful

Write in the present tense.

If you write about what you want in the future, you may end up waiting a long time for your affirmation to come true.

You cannot make affirmations for other people. You are doing this for you. Your affirmations should in fact sound self centered. Their purpose is to encourage you and attract what you want out of life.

Your affirmation should always be in a positive tone, and it should include a positive emotion such as: I am excited, I am passionate, I am slim, I am fit, I am healthy….

The more likely you are to remember your affirmation, the more likely you are to say it. If it is too wordy, you will have a hard time remembering it.

If what you have written makes you so uncomfortable that you feel you are lying to yourself, change the wording something you believe, such as:

I intend to….

I am willing to….

I choose to….

Make it about you Include positive emotion Keep it short and sweet You must believe it Examples of Affirmations Health

I am healthy in mind, body and spirit.

Every day I am getting stronger and healthier.

My body is healed, restored and filled with energy.

I am living a long, happy, healthy life.

I am in control of my health and wellness.

I allow health and happiness to flow through my body.

Relationships

I attract only healthy relationships.

I am special and deserve love.

I am surrounded by love.

My heart is open to love.

I deserve love and pleasure.

I am ready for a loving, fulfilling, respectful relationship.

Career

I love my job and I am good at it.

Doors of opportunity and abundance are open to me now.

I am passionate about my career and it rewards me with abundance.

At this moment, I am attracting the perfect career into my life.

I have strong skills and employers want to hire me.

Opportunities come easily to me.

Self Confidence

I am beautiful and admired.

I love myself unconditionally.

I am wonderful and grateful to be me.

I love my life.

I am unique and lucky to be me.

I can do anything I set my mind to.

Exercise

My fitness routine is enjoyable, energetic and effective.

When I am exercising, I feel healthier and healthier every minute.

My body responds to my fitness goals.

I feel rejuvenated and energized after exercising.

I feel healthier when I work out.

I am good to my body and my body is good to me.

Weight Loss

I enjoy eating healthy.

I feel thin.

I am getting stronger, thinner and healthier every day.

I am the perfect weight for me.

I choose to make positive healthy choices for myself.

I love and appreciate my body.

Getting Results From Your Affirmations

There are several methods that can be used alone, or in combination. You will have to determine what method(s) are going to work for you. At minimum though, you need to verbalize your affirmations at least once a day in combination with at least one other method listed below.

Here is a sample of various ways you can use your affirmations to help you get results.

Method 1 – Written Method

Write out your affirmations 15 times every morning and every night before you go to bed.

Say them out load to yourself in the mirror using you statements.

Say your affirmation out loud anytime you feel yourself engaging in a negative though or activity that contradicts your affirmation.

Method 2 – You In The Mirror Method 3 – The Negative Roadblock

Example: If you are trying to quit smoking, and you feel yourself reaching for a cigarette, say your affirmation out loud “I am living a healthy lifestyle.”

Method 3 – Record Yourself

Make a recording of your affirmations that you can play over and over again in the car, or on your iPod.

Many people report that falling asleep listening to their affirmations has been very successful.

Sing your affirmations.

Write out each of your affirmations on individual 3 x 5 recipe cards (one per card). Create several cards for each affirmation. Post the cards in various places where you will see them on a daily basis.

Method 4 – The Sing Method Method 5 – Reminder Cards

Examples: Inside a desk drawer, on the bathroom mirror, on the fridge, on your dashboard, etc.

Dr. Nathalie Beauchamp, B.Sc., D.C. is co-author of the book Wellness On The Go: Take the plunge – it’s Your Life! and the founder of http://www.roadmaptowellness.com an on-line wellness education program. Dr. Beauchamp is a chiropractor, a certified personal fitness trainer, a professional natural bodybuilder, a TV personality, a corporate wellness consultant and an inspirational speaker.

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